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do not interact

just use common sense & chill, don't be a gross person. also if you fetishize/romanticize mental (& or physical for that matter) symptoms/illnesses/problems/disorders; think they're "fun" or "cute" to have, do not interact with us. mental health issues & trauma aren't desirable to have. The same goes for physical problems. & we'd rather not talk to someone who believes they are.
info;
We are a system that struggles with dissociative identity disorder (also known as DID.); while we don't feel too comfortable sharing much personal information (for the sake of the internet being y'know, the internet /lh) , we don't mind getting to know people or introducing ourselves if asked! (but if someone is uncomfy revealing themselves, please respect that.) in the meantime, feel free to refer to us as "Lucian" or our other collective names of Ciel & Lucien, we don't mind being called they/them pronouns in reference to the whole system - however, if you might know of a headmate's pronouns to said alter - feel free to use their other pronouns.
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current fronter(s) & co-conscious alters will be shown with "f;" (front) in our discord about me + status & in our spacehey status. however - do be aware that we don't always know who's fronting or co-con; in which cases we will put "unsure/blurry" & for us who prefer to stay anonymous we will put (anonymous) & or + others.
some extra info, we also have been professionally diagnosed with; scz, mdd, gad (schizophrenia, depression, & anxiety) (those are the only other things that we're comfy with sharing with rn.) due to this, we get overwhelmed easily on top of other symptoms and things like that, so if it takes us some time to reply to something, please do give us some time! we'll try to reach out eventually once we're feeling better. as for asking questions, you may - don't ask for anything too personal, & if we're uncomfy with answering something then we'll say, do not push further onto questions that we may not want to answer! thank you :>
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last thing, due to these conditions & others we often forget stuff, please politely remind us of something if we forget, all we ask is for your patience ♡

do remember that did is a serious trauma disorder
& it is not fun to have. it's a type of severe dissociative disorder that develops from extreme childhood trauma. please respect boundaries that our system may have & feel free to research or ask for clarification on things. now, onto the do's & don'ts;
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Do's
ask if someone's okay with talking about something ^^
if we give you information, keep that information private.
respect our boundaries, we'll try our best to respect yours no matter what :>
be patient with us.
know that did/osdd aren't just "alter disorders" there is much more to them that goes beyond that. (such as dissociative amnesia; memory loss, time loss, dissociation & DPDr; (c)ptsd, fragmentation of identity & sense of self, passive influence, comorbid disorders, somatic symptoms, ect.)
be willing to study & learn if you would like to know more.
be willing to communicate if you have any issues or problems!
if we get something wrong please politely correct us <3
use tone tags if you know them (a guide to them is on the first page!)
Don'ts
push someone into giving you information if they aren't comfortable with giving it. if someone isn't comfy with telling you who they are / their name / who's fronting, leave them be.
"can i have x alter talk to me instead?" please do not say this!! all of our headmates have the right to front and have time out of the headspace (however, asking "hey could you ask/tell this alter this thing" is okay ^^ we don't mind sending a message/question over, but be aware that our communication within the system isn't always the best & that someone may not want to respond or answer something! )
if someone wants you to stop doing or talking about something, change topics & stop doing it. common sense & respect, same goes if you're uncomfy with someone talking about something / making you uncomfortable, communication comes a long way. ✰
ask about trauma/triggers unless we know you well enough/feel comfortable enough with talking about it.
ask extremely personal questions or attempt to dox us
stigmatize did/osdd, or any disorder at all.
spread misinformation.
try to negatively trigger us intentionally
"you're so lucky you have did, i wish i had-" no you do not. do not say this, this isn't a fun experience or fantasy in the slightest. it has affected the way we function in daily life & our struggling isn't something you want. you may ask questions in private preferably through dms, but do not say anything like this. same goes for schizophrenia & other conditions!
this is the end of the carrd, thanks for reading!